Believers tend to focus on the positives, have you noticed that? We are born again, a new creation in Christ! This is true and with these thoughts come peace and joy. However, that peace and joy only are found on the other side of sorrow, deep grief, sadness, and gloom.
Otherwise known as remorse, or better still…repentence.
To repent means to change one’s mind about something, to turn away from. Before you can repent you actually have to look at it, understand it, and make a choice to turn away from it. It’s a process and it’s emotionally messy. And it doesn’t just happen once and then you’re good to go. Repentance occurs daily in some cases, until the thing you are choosing to turn away from no longer is “a thing”.
Each sin repented brings you one more glimpse of the peace and joy God gives and that creates a desire for more of Him in your heart.
Don’t shun the sorrow and grief in an attempt to that “joyful” Christian. Live in truth and embrace the messiness because that is how God created a joyful Christian!
Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.
James 4:9-10 NLT